Spouses are quick to point out weight gain when it occurs. Obesity affects marriages negatively. Spouses may not be able to participate in family activities requiring exertion (especially with the young kids). Obesity causes a decline and often avoidance of intimacy. Obesity causes low self-esteem and can foster an environment with increased arguments.


Studies reveal that obese people — especially those actively trying to lose weight — are more dissatisfied with their marital lives, and obese women seem to suffer the most.


The response from the non-obese spouse ranges from accepting the new reality to blaming the other party for their weight which in turn causes a great deal of strain on the relationship.


To make matters worse, obese people trying to lose weight in a non-medical way either by dieting and exercise or using diet pills experience a 95% failure rate and regain the weight lost; which leads to additional frustration and anger.


How can this problem be fixed?


First, the non-obese spouse needs to stop blaming the other party for their condition. We now know that obesity is not due to excess calories. It has nothing to do with lack of self-discipline. If it was as simple as jogging 30 minutes a day and a eating salad, it should not have turned into a worldwide epidemic. They are not responsible for their condition and they cannot treat it themselves.


Second, the obese spouse needs to correct this problem not to please their partner but because obesity is a serious health condition and it is associated with medical diseases such as diabetes, hypertension, heart disease, stroke as well as increased mortality.


Obesity treatment is complex and it needs to address the underlying metabolic errors that caused it to happen in the first place.  

The Metabolism Clinic is established as the destination for weight loss and reversal of diabetes. Based in Charlotte, North Carolina. www.themetabolismclinic.com